Your parents and new stepparent might not have thought about the things you're asking either, so there's an opportunity to explore options together.(你的父母和繼父母可能也沒想到你提的問題，這是好機會，你們能夠一同解決問題。)

But I do not mean to give you the idea that talk is all it takes to be a good parent or stepparent.(但我的意思并非只要交談就能當好父母或繼父繼母。)

For example, even when someone likes a new stepparent, it's natural to feel some pangs that this new person is "replacing" a beloved parent in some way.(比如，面對繼父或繼母，你感到非常痛苦，因為這個人在某種程度上取代了你深愛的父親或母親，這種感覺是很正常的。)

Even if you don't have negative feelings about the new person in your family, you may have very strong feelings about the changes a stepparent is creating.(即使你不反感家里的新成員，你也會強烈地感覺到，這個人帶來了一些變化。)

Don't overreact. If your child criticizes his or her stepparent, try not to overreact.(不要反應過度如果你的孩子批評你的新配偶，注意不要反應過度。)

For example, figure out ahead of time what to call your stepparent.(比如，提前想好該如何稱呼你的繼父或繼母。)

But managing your anger and taking extra care to choose respectful language will help your stepparent see you for the mature person you are, not as a child.(但是要克制你的憤怒，措辭要十分慎重，禮貌的語言會讓你的繼父或繼母認為你很成熟而不是孩子氣。)

So what can you do to adjust to the daily realities of living with a stepparent?(為了適應每天與繼父或繼母一起的生活，你能做些什么？)

Instead of worrying about the "what ifs" and the inevitable changes, talk to your mom or dad about what to expect before your new stepparent joins the family.(不要為種種假設或不可避免的變化而擔憂，與你的母親或父親交談，談談在繼父或繼母來之前你該做些什么。)